The Five Types of Men I’ve Encountered While Dating Online as a Transgender Woman
In the search for Mr. Impossible.
I have been married for 17 years to a wonderful woman in which 14 years we were strictly monogamous. In early 2019, my wife and I were casually discussing polyamory when my wife surprised me by saying that she thought she would be okay with me sometimes dating others. In this, she meant that she would be okay with me dating men. Her reasoning was that a man could give me something that she could not.
Setting aside the false notion that a woman must have a man to be happy, she had a point. A man could give me something more than just a hard cock.
For me, as a transgender woman, to have a heterosexual man see and accept me whole as a woman and date me like they would any other cis woman is my holy grail. The problem is that heterosexual men will often see me as a man, a fetish, an experience to be had, a way to act out their homosexual desires in a safe way, or any combination thereof.
To have a man accept and love me like the woman I am, without any reservations or hangups, and to love me in a manner they would any other woman is something my wife cannot give me.
Herein lies the dilemma. Finding such a man is not as simple as hope or fantasy. I am not…
