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Megan Thee Stallion Got Shot and Mocked
Black men — are you listening?
The treatment of Black women within the Black community is worse than I ever wanted to admit. I wanted to believe that Black men had our backs, that we were in this together, and that we understood the importance of dismantling white supremacist ideology that harms Black people. While it is true that many Black men support Black women, misogynoir reasoning thrives within the community. If you ask a Black man if he loves Black women, he will tell you, “yes’.” He may say that he has daughters, sisters, or mother. However, that is no different than when a low-key racist person says, “I have Black friends.” Just because you know people in a marginalized group does not mean that you care about them.
Black men, on social media, consistently call Black women manly and ugly. Many will call women ugly as an excuse to treat them lowly. They called Kamala Harris every name in the book, described Black women like Megan Thee Stallion and Serena Williams as manly. In a meme, their pictures stood side by side. To call a woman manly who does not see herself as such is to slight her womanhood. It is a cruel way of saying — you are not a woman worthy of consideration. The insults from these men communicate that if a woman is not conventionally attractive, she loses value and, in turn, her humanity. These Black men will be the first to tell you that sexism does not exist. They claim that gender is not a factor in our lives. However, Black women suffer the most from discriminatory practices. As a group, Black women make less money, have less access to investment capital, die from maternal mortality at outrageous rates, are were the last group of citizens given the right to vote.
While it is true that not all men or even the majority of men hold these views, the good ones do not speak up and retort the negative description and attacks on Black women vehemently enough. In a Black Power group, Black men unified to denigrate her. How can this group be a safe place to share ideas on dismantling white supremacy when…
